There is a saying that the mother of the groom should ensure that she wears beige, stays in the background and keeps her mouth shut during the entire process of the wedding ceremony. However, things have changed. If you want that your son’s wedding takes place smoothly and happily, there are some things that you can do to ensure peace and happiness for all.
- Talent – Trying to take over the show and plan everything for your son’s wedding should be avoided. While you may be anxious to get everything right, it is, after all, for the bride to decide a lot of things with her man-to-be. Offer your help and services in the areas that you are good at. This could be flower arrangement, photography or calligraphy. You could offer to handwrite the wedding invitations for the couple too.
- Guests – It is not acceptable to hand a list of your guests that you would like to invite for the wedding. The better way to handle this is to ask the bride and her family about the number of guests that you can invite. Try and not haggle about the number of people that you must invite and manage your guests in what is allotted to you. You cannot expect the bride to pay for your social extravaganzas. If you feel that you would like to invite a larger number of people, you can always arrange for a post-wedding dinner for the couple and your friends.
- Bond with the other mom – Arranging to have a light lunch with the mother of the bride-to-be is a great way in which you can bond with the family that is becoming a part of yours. When you reach out to the mother, you automatically ensure that the bride also feels positive towards you.
- Time with the bride-to-be – While you may not want to overdo it, there is great merit in communicating that you have no qualms in handing over your beloved son to the daughter-in-law to be. Share recipes of some foods that you son loves. Talk about his childhood and what he means to you. But avoid overdoing this, just in case you come across as being too aggressive and bossy.
- Dress – A lot of brides feel peeved at the kind of dress that the mother of the groom chooses. If you want to make sure that you do not take the limelight away from your daughter in law to be, try staying away from lavish white dresses. Black can indicate mourning and flashy colors like red may seem as if you are desperate to attract attention. Coordinating the dress with the mother of the bride is a good idea. While you do not have to look like twins, wearing something that does not look outlandish and garish and is in tune with what the mother of the bride is wearing is preferable.
- Rehearsal dinner – The rehearsal dinner is something that is your responsibility. At this time, you can stand out and shine as much as you want to. This is not the time when you have to take a back seat. Discussing the post rehearsal dinner with the couple before you finalize anything is a good idea.
It is gracious for the mother of the groom to understand that this is not a ceremony where she needs to stand out. When you elegantly and gracefully allow the bride to take the limelight, the amount of respect that you gain from the bride and also your son is immense.
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